If the preceding image has offended you, READ ON, I not only dare you, I BEG of you. Because I suppose now is the time to let my readers in on my fiance’s blog and forewarn them of her experiences. Dont get it wrong: I WANT people to read what she has to say. Even though it gives me a certain degree of trepidation knowing I am publicly sort of “outing” not only her life, but also part of mine. I was completely destroyed and humiliated when I discovered what it was she was doing. But in the time since, we decided we would make another go of it, and, with all cards on the table, all skeletons yanked from closets, we are better than we’ve ever been….
That said, I want to talk about Kara’s life, and how it has affected her, and me, and how it should affect (Effect?–I can never remember which is the proper usage) anyone who reads her shit, who is privy to the life she has lived in what seems only 23 short years. Not to mince any words, the girl I intend to marry next year was, for a time, “employed” as a WHORE. Not an escort. Not a courtesan. She was a WHORE. She had sex with anonymous men for money– Men she’d just met, through pre-arranged circumstances, wherein these pathetic fucks went to a website, found a girl that looked like she’d be a suitable receptacle for their pathetic, withered cocks, and paid money to stick their aforementioned meat-sticks into…
I could go on and on about how these “men” are no better than serial killers, who LITERALLY see women as objects that are good only for them to fuck and spit on before disposing of them, but I’ll spare you the diatribe (at least for now). Point is, my fiance is almost 23 years old, has two young children, and, because our shit economy was destroyed by greedy millionaire (BILLIONAIRE?) bankers who always wanted more and because whole generations of children are being raised in a world where sex work not only seems glamorous, but is also a suitable and prestigious line of work, are now looking at paid sex as a way out of the shit life that has been left for all of us non-go-getters, she became a whore.
This is more than a cautionary tale though. This aint no fucking Go Ask Alice. This is a real human being who had men pay her to let them LITERALLY spit on her. This blog that I am linking you to contains the REAL ruminations of the woman I love. She was momentarily led astray and fell into thinking she didn’t deserve anything more than these horrific realities. And I was living right beside her, sleeping next to her every night and had no idea. Because she had no idea that she was worth so much more than that, not just because I was her boyfriend, but because as a HUMAN BEING she deserved to be treated better. And every last one of them do. I dont give a flying fuck if its the worlds oldest profession. From the dawn of human history 6,000 years ago there has been slavery but just because there’s precedent for this despicable practice DOESN’T MAKE IT RIGHT. Every single last one of us deserves to be treated with some degree of respect and acknowledgement and even if some asshole has some “tricked-off” cash that he can spend that month on violating the most sacred of holies on some desperate young girl, IT IS WRONG. And before any random reader tries to say some bullshit to me about how every Utah-an watches porn, I preemptively answer back that watching porn is the same thing as paying for the girl yourself in real life.There wouldnt be a porn “industry” if we didnt give them the money to make it viable.
So, yes, to cut any questions off at the pass, I have in the past considered myself a sort of connoisseur of porn. And the novel I am working on now has a porn subplot that I researched by talking to actual pornstars. I dont disrespect any of them in any way. I consider them merely mislead. But thats my whole point in writing about this stuff. I want to enact change. And yes, I probably wouldnt give two shits about even thinking about this stuff if I hadnt experienced firsthand how it ruins relationships and lives. (I have an 11 year old daughter and cant imagine for even half a second her being one of these porn “stars”–and yet every last one of them is someone’s daughter). Kara has told me how the great majority of her clients were married men looking for sex free of the confines of bitching and onlooking children and age-acquired wrinkles and flab. SO WHAT, I say. Nothing is worth sacrificing yourself in such a way, so that these pathetic fucks with their poor marital choices and their AWESOME, well-paying careers get to blow some of their spending cash on purchasing another human being for their sexual kicks….
But I digress. (Impassioned, maybe???). Read for yourself. And know that a great many of Kara’s readers find her blog via Google searches such as “While Daddy was out I fucked my mom” and “I fucked my daughter”.
How dare you? You are a hypocrite of the worst degree. You sit there without any sense of irony, ranting about how wrong sex work is? You, who are about to marry a child who gladly discusses and names her own children – with photos in relation to her life in this industry?
The very fact that she is willing to put enough details about her life to make her children easy targets to predators or even the authorities (yes, I read all about the credit card fraud you two committed against one of her Johns to fly her and her son back to you), while you smugly rant about how wrong sex work is, sickens me.
Let’s look at the facts here. There is an illegal sex trade happening in this country that makes real victims of children everyday. It’s horrible and adult sex workers are fighting each and every day to bring some legal balance into play to prevent forced prostitution.
Meanwhile, these same adult women choose for themselves what to do with their bodies and fight to make their decisions to use their bodies as THEY see fit, not as YOU see fit. And you would condemn and paint them all with the exact same misogynistic brush that you use to paint your own life.
Adult women are perfectly capable of deciding for THEMSELVES what to do with THEIR bodies. CHILDREN should be protected from being forced into sex work or any of the degradations that would leave them to believe that this is their only option.
You had the opportunity to see this exact scenario play out. Your child bride was a fetus when you graduated high school. If every single word of her blog is true, she was obviously a troubled girl with absolutely no life coping skills and OBVIOUS father issues.
And yet, YOU entered into a sexual relationship with her while you were in your thirties and she was barely out of her teens. Or, was she still a teenager? The timelines are a little skewed in the retelling.
Then, when this child is confronted with the very simple decision to either tell the truth about not having completed any professional training OR becoming a prostitute, she chooses prostitution because of her fear of what YOU would think of her. Her fear of your judgment of her for padding her resume, and the fact that she has no coping skills for dealing with life, caused her to choose prostitution. She believed she was worthless and it seems that you did nothing to correct that notion – otherwise, she would have simply said “Hey, I don’t have beauty license,” rather than even considering prostitution as an option.
And now, you smugly sit there on your high horse and exclaim prostitution is wrong as though adult women who do have life coping skills, who do have their own minds, have no idea how to decide what to do with their own bodies.
You may be the white knight trying to save this damaged girl from her own choices and decisions, but you have NO right whatsoever to decide what is right for every one else. She chooses to let you influence her decisions. The rest of us do not.
The simple fact that she is making it so easy for predators to identify and locate her children, shows that she STILL is not able to make the types of decisions that completely functional adults make every single day. And, the fact that you are supporting her in making her children targets shows that you are just as incapable of leading the moral charge against pornography or sex work of any kind.
While I wish you the best of luck in rearing your future bride, and your (and her) children, I would appreciate it if you focused your attention on them and let those of us who know how to think for ourselves make our own decisions of what is the right and what is the wrong thing to do with our bodies and lives. Your very rant smacks of Puritanism and Republican-ism, and I pray to whatever higher power is out there, that someone like you is NEVER in charge of making decisions that would impact the lives of the women in this country.
How about you rack up some Karma and pay back the money you defrauded from the John that was willing to marry her and let the rest of us decide what is right and what is wrong for ourselves.
I DARE you to actually post this.
Ms. Moody, I’ll accept that dare and I’ll double-down triple-dog dare you back. Or whatever. I have absolutely no problem posting your comment, in fact I welcome the fact that you took all the time it must have taken you to write it, as you’ve addressed multiple key points all in one shot, that I can here, once and for all, address and lay to rest.
Let’s start with the most moronic of yr accusations: that Kara’s posting about her children somehow puts them at risk for child predators. This is ridiculous at best and a fucking retarded attempt at fear-mongering at worst. Bloggers constantly post pictures and descriptions of their children all the time, not only on their blogs but on facebook, twitter, etc. None of these peoples’ children are at any more risk for being abducted by sick fucks than any of the dozens of children waiting at bus stops on a daily basis from sea to shining sea in this country. So your assertion that her talking about her life openly and honestly is in any way potentially harmful is ridiculous. Sell your fearmongering elsewhere, Ma’am.
Secondly (and I know for a fact that Kara already sent you an email refuting this stupid shit months ago when you sent just this type of accusation via comment on her own blog), there was no credit card fraud perpetrated against this poor defenseless John. Her plane ticket out of that hell was purchased on her own credit card. She doesn’t owe this sorry sack of shit a goddam thing.
Next. Learn to do some math. Yes, Kara is younger than I am, but was in no way a teenager when we met. Not that either of us need to defend our relationship to you or anyone else. You dont get to shoot the messenger just because you don’t like hearing the message.
Next. If you took even half as much time as you had to have spent writing this comment (based on your obvious lack of deductive reasoning skills) on reading my other blog posts, you would see that accusing me of being a Republican or a Puritan in any way shape or form is nothing short of asinine. What I have a problem with is the culture we live in that makes young, misinformed and “fucked up” girls like Kara think that sex “work” is a legitimate way to “escape” the hands they have been dealt. You cannot tell me for one moment that ANYONE would choose to have sex with random strangers if they had other legitimate options to make a life for themselves. You obviously have taken some kind of personal offense to my and her blog posts, so I can only assume (using my own obviously superior deductive reasoning skills) that you yourself are a “worker” in the sex industry. You are not our target, I assure you, “Chastity”. (LOL) We seek not to make prostitution anymore illegal than it already is. Rather, our goal is to educate as many young women as possible as to the reality of the sex industry, that it isnt at all glamorous or worth the little pieces of your soul that one must be willing to part with every time you let some disgusting lameass piece of shit have his way with you. That there IS a better way. If you have a probllem with either of us trying to shed a light on something that is so obviously soul-destroying, I suggest you take a look in the mirror and maybe ask yourself just why you feel the need to defend an industry that RAPES all of its vocational adherents.
Chasity,
First and foremost, let me settle the argument ? The person on question is basically a pimp, who Kara had to pay so he got his novel published?
You are correct I an the “John” (unwittingly) that gave Kara a credit card … You are correct (I thank you for seeing through this “couples” dishonesty ???
In my defense, I did NOT know Kara was involved with anyone and would NOT have pursued a relationship if I had ?
You, sir, are a moron of the first order, and as such dont deserve even the faintest modicum of a proper response here. So I’ll leave this one at that.